Dealing With the Bullies in Life

We all have to deal with them at one time or another – the bullies we run into who want to argue a point, pick a fight, or just want to be downright nasty. While we can’t necessarily get rid of them, we can have the upper hand by not getting sucked into their negativity.

Think about it. People who are mean have their own agenda. They don’t care about yours, they are more focused on their needs at the time. So what is a person to do? Hit with an uppercut? Not necessarily. Getting “down to their level” only eggs them on and promotes aggression. It also motivates them because they know they are getting to you.

The most powerful play of all is to not react in the first place. By keeping your cool and staying objective, you truly have the upper hand. Giving time for the bully to cool off before you talk with them can be beneficial when dealing with truly aggressive people. Write out what you want to say before you talk with them. Practice it out loud so you are comfortable with it. When the time is right, get into the ring and state your case. Stand up for yourself and don’t allow the bully to trample you down. When you assert yourself (with the appropriate assertive techniques), you say what’s on your mind without having to pull out the punches. You come out the winner because you are stronger than anyone who has to bully others to get their way.

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Go get ‘em!

Renee Kennedy-Edwards, MS